As you all know, Teen years bring many changes in your children such as physical, mental, emotional, social. Perhaps, you have just noticed, your teenaged son or daughter started to think intellectually. It means your teenager is ready to make plans and set goals.
Your teens need your love, support, and encouragement. You can turn this difficult time of parenting much more meaningful and fulfilling by offering encouragement, acceptance and attention.
Do you want to impose your own will on your teens? Do you always show your teens how to do things? Instead, do you allow them to take the lead? It would provide them an opportunity to learn from their mistakes. You can follow it through to make sure your teen gets helpful attention. Perhaps, this is the best time to enjoy parenting by being interested in who they are and what they are doing.
Sometimes, your teens make choices that are different from your expectations. Do not sit back and think that you lost your full control or your teen ignores you. Rather, enter into a dialogue with your teen by asking open questions gently. Surely, they feel mattered. They always value your acceptance. Have a positive conversation by pointing out their strengths. It boosts their self-esteem and self-confidence. Listen to your teen when they want to talk and what they to talk about even if you are busy with your own works.
At this point, you can think about how you can be a nurturing and responsive parent to your teen son or daughter.
Remember you are an adult, you have more knowledge and experience than your teen when it comes to the matters of life. Your wisdom and insights are incredibly useful for your teens.
Now might be asking, how would I make use of this golden opportunity to impact my teen’s life in a fulfilling way?
It is needless to say teenage period is crucial. During this time their personality develops, they are going through many challenges and many of them are distractive too. So, how can you help your teen to get focused on their dreams and goals.
“How about helping your teenaged children to set goals?” The secret Sause of life success!
Where do you begin the process of goal setting?
First and foremost, thing, you need to have a conversation with your teenager about their goals. Find out what they want and write down their answer, exactly using their own words!
Because, these are your teen’s goals not yours!
Set Positive Goals:
Is your teen’s goal positively worded? If it is not, help them rewrite it as positive statement. Ask them to focus on what they desire to achieve rather than what they want to avoid. In other words, your teen’s goal should be towards a goal. It encourages positive thinking and which help them to stay motivated to achieve their goals.
Make them accountable:
Once in a day, either in every morning or evening let your teenager readout or write their goals several times. It would help them to keep focused on their goals. By repeating the goal, it will stick to their mind. You can lead them to make action plans and together to monitor progress.
Smart Goals: Let your teen’s dream be specific, measurable, achievable(action-oriented), realistic and time-based. Every teen has to learn so many things, so every parent has a great responsibility to make sure their dream is in right path.
If your teen’s goal is,” I want to be better in maths.” It is really a vague goal. It is not easy to measure its progress. Instead, encourage your teen to reset his goal making it specific, measurable, action-oriented and time-based. Your teen has to be clear on his goal, he or she should know what do they want to achieve? Their goal needs to have a start and finish time. They should know that what actions, they should take to reach that goal. So, he or she can easily monitor its progress.
Let him reset his goal E.g. “I want to do all my weekly maths assignments correctly and submit on time for the next three months.” Here, you both can check his progress clearly. Because. it is specific, what does he want to do? When does he want to finish? And, it can be easily assessed and achieved with sufficient effort and focus.
So, your teen can identify and celebrate his or her success. It would boost their self-confidence. These initial successes are the stepping stone to bigger success.
Why Setting Goals:
Your teens may think why would they set goals as there is no surety, this would ever be achieved. Explain your teens the benefits of setting goals, as a parent you can make them understand its benefits by pointing out your personal experiences. Or you can find good reads for them. Tell the story of additional language learning or art class you have taken while you were preparing for your college courses!
Train to face the fear of failure:
Encourage your teens to make good action plans for their goals. Inspire them to work on it regularly. It makes a clear path for your teens to follow through.
Are they still hesitant to take actions? Help them to identify, what stops them from taking actions. If they have any limiting thoughts inspire them to overcome those thoughts.
All these teach your teen to move forward in his or her life easily and confidently. They can build a meaningful and fulfilling life by setting higher goals and accomplishing it with easily.